Radiant Soul

To really be ready to move on, and develop a healthy sense of self-worth it is required you work on inner-clarity, which my previous posts will help you with. 

I genuinely hope all of you worked on getting rid of the addiction you have for your resentment and have chosen to surrender to consciousness and finally WAKE UP. 

Are you confident?

It’s a question we have asked ourselves over and over. Those of us who have learned how to interact well socially, already know that people are naturally drawn to confident people. It’s also easy for us to recognize who is and who isn’t self-confident by the way they carry themselves: posture, facial expression, and stride. So, those of us who wanted to succeed socially have certainly worked on our self-confidence outwardly. 

How did you go about trying to present yourself confidently? Did you practice your smile in the mirror? Did you spend all your money on great clothes? Have you chosen to dress well and create a perfect scenario around yourself such as a great house, perfect job, generous amount of money, a lean and fit body and the perfect partner to go with it?

You must be confident. Actually you must be happy! I am happy for you too!

Why self-worth is so important

Please think about the following, and don’t do it with anger or attachment to your current beliefs, take some deep breaths and relax, feel what emotions your body puts you through when you consider the following; what happens if your perfect partner leaves you for someone else? What if you lose that job? Even worse what if our economy fails or the whole current system we have for everything falls through because it just isn’t working anymore, or,  money becomes nothing all together? You lose your job, you lose your house. You probably lose all those friends you tried so hard to win with those outside achievements (as they were just as superficial as you were), and now you have lost your self-worth.

Even if all this doesn’t make you want to wake up to reality then you can be sure of this, you will age! Your body will deteriorate! And there will come a time where you can either choose to be resentful towards others because of all you have lost from your youth, or wake up to a higher consciousness in life.

Now I am not one to tell you to worry about anything drastic happening in your life. Because why worry about something when it is not even there, it’s a ghost, just a thought your mind has created to keep you tense  and stressed, it’s that basic underlying ego that drives most humans and animals to survive. But, what I asked you to consider was all meant to prove a point: at one stage all material and outside things will cease to exist, but that doesn’t mean your energy and radiance have to at all. 

Ways to build true self-worth 

Think of your inner worth and value like any other muscle in your body, it can be strengthened, and it can be weakened. You can’t pop out to the gym and expect to run 5km’s if you have never even set foot in one before can you? Just like your muscles, your mind and your soul are also either weak or strong. You need to work at your confidence every day and keep it up to make it a strong muscle. Even if that muscle may get sore at times, it will take a while of neglect for it to go back into reverse. Your negative self-image took all your life to build, so it’s going to take some time and dedication to make it healthy and strong again. Like anything else, aim to keep your inner-soul strong, and aim to be on a level conscious of your higher self. Don’t let yourself be trapped by your mind or your body! Because you own your body, and you run your mind! You are the one that sets limitations on yourself, not the universe, not your soul. Do you really think any successful person in life whom contributed to society got ahead and was able to make a difference by constantly thinking “I CAN’T DO THIS”, no, of course not, they made a difference because they chose to take responsibility for their own head, wash away their fears of failure, stand tall and proud and tell themselves and everyone around them no matter how much they were laughed at, “I CAN DO ANYTHING”.

Let’s start with some basic ways to create an ideal positive environment you can start to allow yourself to shine in

·         *Positive self-talk: Most people know this as “affirmations”, I remember the doubt (negativity I have since gotten rid of) I encountered when first told about the power of affirmations from my sister. However having studied psychology, it is known that depression develops not only from a chemical imbalance, but from years of training your brain into negative self-talk. When we go to a psychologist, we learn to retrain our brain with positive self-talk. This really does work, and even if you believe it won’t, how can affirming yourself in a deeply relaxed state that you are beautiful and can, going to hurt you anymore than telling yourself you are unlovable and can’t do anything. I admit that the negative state is safe, and in that state you can blame everything else around you for the reason you can’t do anything. However, you will find so much more inner-satisfaction when you wake up and become responsible than any other self-detrimental addictions can give you (which are only temporary anyway!). Don’t get stuck in a state that considers the past and the future instead of the now. You are helpless to change the past, and kidding yourself if you think you can control situations in the future, but in the now you have complete control to choose to follow whatever path you want.  

But as long as you are working towards what you want daily you can’t ever really fail. Your goals may change as you grow older and come into yourself and discover that you really want something else out of life, but that does not mean that you failed achieving the previous goal. Make sure to let go any of that clutter and focus solely on what you want in this moment.

·         Developing a relationship with your body: Learn to listen to it, nourish it and make it healthier. Exercising makes you feel more confident, and also releases happy-feeling chemicals in your brain, because it’s good for you! Eating unhealthily doesn’t make your body happy either. The healthier you get, and the cleaner you choose to eat, the easier it will be for you to recognize that you are out of balance. Your body will start to cry and let you know when you eat something it doesn’t want, it will ache when it needs a massage or some TLC, and the less your brain will tell you that you want to be lazy, and eat a bunch of crap.

·         Friendships: You are what you eat and you are who you choose to devote time to. If you have friends that start to get resentful towards your new success (even if it’s just within yourself) and try to pull you down to an unconscious state again. Remove yourself! People who try to block your shine aren’t doing it intentionally; their ego wants to attack you for making them look bad (which is in their own head again). With time and ease some people can be shown that they have power over their own lives and emotions, but they have to want that power first. Unfortunately for most people the dawn only comes after the darkest hour. Make sure the friends you choose to hang out with are positive, and encourage your self-development and respect your feelings. Bitter, resentful, blaming, irresponsible, and drama-seeking persons rarely change, although you may love them dearly and understand they are truly crying out for change inside, you can’t force them. Being with such people is only going to drain your energy and time!

·         GOALS: Even when living in the now, knowing your self-worth, and radiating warmth and love to others, the hardest thing you will ever do in your life is try to discover what it is you really want. I mean really want. Ask yourself these questions even if you are currently pursuing a goal. What is really going to bring you happiness day in and day out? If you are in a job that you despise, of course you aren’t going to be happy. But don’t sit there and complain about it because that never helped anyone become successful and fulfilled, figure out how you can change it. If you are currently studying, make sure it’s what YOU want to do, it’s your life and you will have to live in it every day, so don’t aim for a career that looks smart/amazing to other people, your parents, or someone important, do something that feels good to you.

If you aren’t really sure, or the bigger picture is fuzzy and incomplete to you that’s okay too, start with small things and make sure to write them down in present tense, make sure they are healthy and achievable goals. If you are a baby-steps person, do it in baby steps. Do you smoke and want to quit? The fact is if you smoke because you are addicted but hate the fact you do every day, then you are only lowering your self-worth, as well as hurting your body, and telling your mind that you are a victim and are controlled by your addictions, this can affect your view on everything else as well. Do you want to lose some weight and become healthier? Incorporate better foods into your diet? Do you simply just want to give out some happiness and love out to others for now and become a more considerate person (which is a greatly fulfilling activity to engage in).

Go ahead and write all your current goals for yourself down.

I no longer enjoy putting the harsh chemical of nicotine into my body and have stopped smoking

I now enjoy 30 minutes of exercise four times a week

I feel healthier, stronger, and slimmer every day

I am a more considerate person and feel great helping others

Look at your goals list every night, and tell yourself you can do it. Get relaxed, meditate, and visualize all these desires falling into place for you. Know completely that you are in control of your life, and what you choose to do with it. Don’t be surprised if you start to find happiness. When you complete a goal, even a tiny one, you are flooded with positive emotions, you feel great about yourself (not because you now look good), but because you took self-control of your habits and eating, and because you feel healthy! You didn’t do it for anyone but yourself, and that truly feels great.

Thanks for reading, and thanks for choosing to be a shining light in this world. The more light we shine out, the less darkness there will be covering our planet. Evil is only the absence of good. To discover your self-value, and learn to be present is to wake up to a higher conscious way of living, yes it means taking responsibility, but it also means great power in yourself, and your ability to change whatever you want for the better!